Monday, October 26, 2009

Same-sex marriage battle moves to Maine

"Voters in Maine will decide next week whether to overturn the legislation signed by Gov. John Baldacci nearly six months ago that allows same-sex couples to wed," as reported by CNN.

I can't believe that in 2009, the idea of same sex marriages is still debatable. Before we start quoting scripture here, all I want to know is this: why am I, as a heterosexual female, allowed to legally marry a heterosexual man? What makes us so special? There are probably hundreds of gay and lesbian couples out there, in devoted, monogamous relationships that would love to be allowed the right to have a legal marriage. Let's drop this "civil union" shit while we're at it. What really should be the deciding factor in a marriage is whether or not there are two legal-aged consenting adults involved.

And what the hell is a civil union anyway? "A civil union is a legally recognized union similar to marriage. Beginning with Denmark in 1989, civil unions under one name or another have been established by law in many developed countries in order to provide same-sex couples with rights, benefits, and responsibilities similar (in some countries, identical) to opposite-sex civil marriage."

Hmmm, sounds like a definition of marriage to me. Why can't we just call it marriage? Man-man, woman-woman, man-woman, it doesn't matter."Marriage is a social union or legal contract between individuals that creates kinship. It is an institution in which interpersonal relationships, usually intimate and sexual, are acknowledged by a variety of ways, depending on the culture or demographic. Such a union may also be called matrimony, while the ceremony that marks its beginning is usually called a wedding and the marital structure created is known as wedlock."

"Initially, I had the opinion for several years that civil unions were the limitations of what I was willing to support," Baldacci said. "But, the research that I did uncovered that a civil union didn't equal a civil marriage." [Baldacci said]

Love shouldn't be legally defined as a man and a woman. And anyone that argues heterosexual marriage is at risk if gay and lesbian marriage is allowed is not very secure in their own marriage. I don't fear for the sanctity of my own marriage. If Americans could be more open minded, this country might be a better place.

If you think about it, we again are on the cusp of history in the making. Can you see the parallels between same sex marriage and marriage between people of different races? According to Wikipedia, "Interracial marriage in the United States has been fully legal in all U.S. states since the 1967 Supreme Court decision that deemed anti-miscegenation laws unconstitutional, with many states choosing to legalize interracial marriage at much earlier dates."

But as far as scripture goes, you can quote the Bible all day long if you want, looking for "proof" that gay and lesbians are "bad." I'm just not buying it. Maybe back in the day, sure God would have looked down upon gays and lesbians. Today, I don't think so. I'd like to think that God would be more open minded about that.

"Noting that the word "homosexuality" is never used in scripture, Myers and Scanzoni argue: "Nothing is said about homosexual orientation as understood through modern science, nor is anything said about the loving relationship of two same-sex persons who have covenanted to be life partners." Their conclusion: "It's important to keep those distinctions in mind when examining the small number of biblical passages commonly used in discussions of homosexuality." Referring to the key New Testament passages that condemn homosexuality, they claim that "many biblical scholars are convinced that these passages have nothing to do with homosexual orientation and committed homosexual relationships as we know them today."

God stated in Genesis 2:18: "It is not good for the man to be alone." For a homosexual individual, the only suitable companion is a person of the same gender. To say that gays and lesbians should not form committed relationships is to say that it is good for them to remain alone. This is a direct contradiction of God's statement; it implies that God is a liar."

My point about scripture is this: you can use the Bible, the Torah or even the Koran to argue each point of every argument you try to make. What it should boil down to is what is in your heart. Rely on your own strength and then find guidance in your book, not the other way around. Times change. People change. What was written as being truth thousands of years ago doesn't stand up in today's world. "We the People of the United States, in Order to form a more perfect Union, establish Justice, insure domestic Tranquility, provide for the common defence, promote the general Welfare, and secure the Blessings of Liberty to ourselves and our Posterity, do ordain and establish this Constitution for the United States of America." These words still hold up today, written by our forefathers, so that we could live free. The ability (because it's probably not a right) to marry who we choose, in my opinion, falls under these words.

If there's someone out there for you, that you love, and they love you, then fight for your rights. If you want to marry, then fight for it.

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