Now, that's not to say that the occasional hitting or tossing of something (not at anyone) when you're super pissed off is unhealthy. I think it can be healthy: a good release of negative energy: almost no different than going to a gym to work off some of that energy. But it should never be directed at your significant other.
This can be a hard thing to learn how to do and then to implement it, if you've never witnessed it before. However, I know for a fact this is something we've gotten better about the longer we've been married. It's okay to point out something you know needs to be addressed and isn't a positive thing. It has to be done. It's like pulling off a bandage: if you do it slowly, its going to hurt more.
Oh man, my husband is the most fun person I know! I'd actually love to have more fun time with him, but with our work schedules and school, it's not always going to happen, so we make the most of the times we have.
There was one that I didn't want to bring up for discussion, even after my husband brought it up once. I'm not going to go into detail here, but we discussed it briefly and agreed to table that subject for the time being. My worst fear would be that our marriage would fail in the end.
Between our work schedules, yes, absence does make the heart grow fonder. Outside of work, my alone time is the dog transports I do. For him, it's motorcycle rides with his friends. We aren't joined at the hip, and sometimes, we do participate in each other's alone times.
When I was laid off last year, I felt out of sorts. My first thought was, "Thank God we paid off the credit card." I didn't like the feeling of possibly leaving my husband with ALL the bills to pay. I didn't feel like I was going to be equal anymore. But between my job searches, my paid out vacation time, my severance pay, and my 4-5 months of unemployment, I was able to keep my feelings of self worth. But that was also greatly due to conversations with my husband about all of it too.
We've never tried marriage counseling. But if something came up in our marriage and he wanted to go to counseling, I think I would. Unless he's beating me or cheating on me, I'd want to save our marriage. But I like to remember something he told me a long time ago, even before we got engaged. We were still in college, and he said, "We are both Communications majors in a certain way. There should be no reason we can't talk to each other about anything." True...very, very true.
Before we got married, we had to do a couples' retreat kind of thing, because he wanted to get married in a Catholic church and I'm not Catholic. We did it with his aunt and uncle, because they went to that church, as our sponsors. It actually wasn't so bad. It was a good time to sit down and discuss some topics that could someday come up in our marriage.
In the beginning though, I didn't like the idea of some Catholic priest telling me that we HAD to do this in order for him to marry us. He didn't know us, we didn't know him and it felt a little like a slam against me because I wasn't Catholic. I suppose if I had pitched a fit, we could have gotten married somewhere else, but it ended up not being a hassle afterall.